This blog is a blog about my relationship.
My relationship with RL started in 2006 while I was participating in Walt Disney World's College Program working at Disney's Pop Century Resort. He was a Hospitality Management major at the University of Central Florida, was working part time at the same resort. We dated for awhile, were broken up for a minute, then back together when I returned to Texas State University to finish my degree.
Our relationship was a long distance one during the rest of that year with both of us traveling back and forth to see each other. Shortly after Christmas 2007, I went to see him in Orlando and on December 27th he proposed to me at the same restaurant that we had shared drinks at on our first date. We didn't tell any of the parents that it had happened right after it happened (mistake #1), but we did tell them individually not to long after.
In May of 2007 I was not really looking actively for work (sorry Mom!) and focusing more on finishing my degree, not realizing that the job market was not as big, vast, and opened as I thought. RL was actively going from job interview to job interview for a position to go into as soon as he walked off the stage. In the job hunt, RL had a second job interview that brought him to Austin on the same weekend as my cousin's wedding, where he met my entire family. He got the job in San Antonio, so in return, I headed out to Florida shortly after I graduated, and moved out of my college apartment to meet all of RL's family for HIS cousin's wedding and helped him move.
We moved in together on June 1, 2007 and started to adjust to living with each other. It was probably the toughest part of my life thus far: adjusting to living with a boy, looking for a job in the worst market EVER, and starting to think about a 2009 wedding. I got a few different jobs during the rest of that year, none of which were really what I wanted to do(I still didn't know what that was). The first was not far from our apartment that didn't pay enough, the second was a job 3 hours away that took me away all week and nearly ruined our relationship. By March of 2008, I was out of work again actively seeking another job. That was the time when stuff hit the fan. Family dynamics on his side reared it's evil head causing a nasty, name-calling, 14-hour crying scuffle that ended with me packing up and moving myself home for a week. Not 2 1/2 hours after packing up my belonging and driving home RL called asking me back.
I did come back because I do love him and I had a job to come back to (the boss had called as I was leaving), so dynamics were changed. Our relationship changed, and our wedding date was changed to around summer 2011. We agreed, worked on things, and chugged along together happily. In November of 2008 I changed jobs again, this time taking a position with my mother in her practice, telecommuting from my apartment most of the month and spending a week in CC. In the same month, RL became a victim of the further down turning of the economy.
We took this as an opportunity rather than an end, so we packed up and moved to North Austin. We took over the remaining months of a friend's lease, and began making a home in ATX. RL applied and applied and applied, beginning to understand what I had gone through when we first moved in together. I had spent most of the time that we lived in that first ATX apartment working Mondays through Fridays in CC for work, being that we moved on my Birthday (January 18th) and it was tax season 2009. Once I returned, we packed up and moved to our current place (a 3 bedroom which I love) and took my little brother on a trip to Walt Disney World. We loved being where we met and had an awesome time. Coming back, RL returned to applying for jobs, and I returned to working from the apartment and pouring over wedding magazines.
All trough the rest of the summer and the fall, RL went out for jobs and nothing came of anything. Fate smiled on us though because by January of 2010, he landed a position in ATX.
After starting work, he and I sat down and decided: the wedding date has now become after May 15th but before September 15th of 2012. I like August 4, 2012 (8/4/12), but it is not set in stone. Thus creating a 5 year engagement. We are engaged, but we aren't. A big step for me is that he talks of it every once in a while, but I am trying to not push him on it. We will be officially engaged by a year from the wedding date (perhaps sooner), which will be the start of official planning and putting down deposits.
This blog is a way for me to keep ideas straight, to vent frustrations, and to wait (im)patiently for actual planning to begin.
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